Tuesday, May 18, 2010

1 YEAR AGO TODAY

My 16 year old SIL Died in a car crash.

HERE is the video of what happened. Neither party was ticketed or blamed. It was just a freak accident.

I do want to mention she was adopted by my husbands dad and step mom at 6 months old. In my husbands eyes and mine she was biological. We didn't treat her any different.

Just to think about it make me sick to my stomach. She was an amazing person. Very mature for her age.

What hurts the most is Shane won't have his own memories of her.
She Loved her NEPHEW. I remember how excited she was when we told her I was pregnant. At holidays that year she wouldn't even eat with us, she said she would rather sit in the living room and take care of Shane and that's what she did. Two weeks before she died she was here for Shane's 1st Birthday party.

I hurt most for Shane. I don't have any siblings and my husband has a brother but he has chosen to be not very involved with his nephew. Never a call or e-mail or card for Shane on x-mas or birthdays. you know the type.


I took the last picture of Stephanie. Here she is in our basement at Shane's first b-day.



I don't know if I'll ever get over her death. I know she won't be forgotten ever. We talk to shane about her all the time. He will even tell you who she is if you show him a picture.

If you get a minute today tell the people that matter most you love them. You never know when you'll lose that opportunity.


34 comments:

  1. I'm sorry for your loss. My cousin (like my sister) passed away in Feb do to a doctors mistake. They say it's gets easier but it doesn't seem that way.
    Stephanie was a beautiful girl and now Shane will have an angel watching over him.

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  2. I am so very sorry and I don understand what you are feeling and going through. Big Hugs!

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  3. I am so sorry for your loss.

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  4. I watch the video. How horrible. So sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you on this day, and everyday when you are remembering her.

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  5. I'm so sorry for your loss. This will always be a hard day, 14 years after the death of my best friend, I still have to pause on the day of her birth and the day of her death to pull myself back together and remind myself to remember her with a smile not with tears.

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  6. how sad. so sorry for your loss.

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  7. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family on this anniversary.

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  8. I am sorry for your families loss.. there really are no words that can take away the pain of a lost loved one.

    I hope today is a good day of remembering her.

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  9. Laura,

    My thoughts are with you and your family today..

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  10. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Our family also lost a great friend 7 years ago tomorrow.

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  11. We lost our youngest at 16 to brain cancer. My oldest always says she is sad that her child, who's almost 2 now, will never know her. We understand and are thinking about you.

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  12. I am so sorry for your loss. The video brought me to tears. You are such a great mother though! I hope you get through the day thinking happy thoughts of Stephanie!

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  13. I am so sorry about your loss. She sounds like an amazing person.

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  14. My thoughts are with you today and every day. She was such an amazing person and will never be forgotten. I tell everybody I love them so much each day ...you included =) Sending you all my love and I hope you can get through this day and know that Stephanie is always looking down on you and watching Shane grow from the heavens above. If you ever wanna go back to her grave site you know I will go with you in a heartbeat. I am always there by your side huggggs!

    Love You!

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  15. Words can't fix the pain, but I am also very sorry for your family's loss. How tragic. You are doing the most wonderful thing maintaining her memory. My heartfelt condolences.

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  16. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know after a year, it's not any easier to stomach what happened than when it first happened. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family today. (HUGS)

    I live in Livonia but I have family out that way. I know that driving to some of those areas can be a little scary.

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  17. This sent shivers down my spine. I am so, so sorry for your loss and to know that you are suffering. She was so young :(
    Hopefully they will address the issue of that light so another family doesn't have to lose someone too. My prayers are with you to ease your heart and comfort you.

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  18. What a horrible thing. Too young to lose her life. She was just beginning it. ((hugs))

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  19. I am sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you and your family today.

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  20. I am sorry that happened. I have been writing of loss and sickness lately and it just makes you realize that you need to spend as much time with family as possible. They are what matter most. Not money or your job, family.

    www.longwaitforisabella.blogspot.com

    Blessings to you all as you still mourn the loss.

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  21. I'm so very sorry for your loss...I'm sure you'll never forget your sister. :(

    Just stopping in to thank you for linking up to Follow Me Back Tuesday...I'm already a follower!

    XO

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  22. Oh, Laura, I am so, so sorry. She is a beautiful, beautiful girl. That picture breaks my heart.

    {{hugs}} and prayers to you all today. xo

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  23. What a lovely young lady:)
    The one year anniversary is always a tough one...you appear to be the kinda of person who can sit back and remember the wonderful things you shared and can be thankful for the opportunity to have had her in your life--shorter than you ever expected, but still she made a difference in who you are today:) Hugs

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  24. wow....what a story. i'm so sorry for your loss. she was beautiful!

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  25. I am so sorry for your loss - this must have been such a tough for you. She looked like such a pretty girl and so sweet the way you describe her. Hugs!!!!!

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  26. So sorry for your family's loss. Thanks for stopping by my blog and now I'm your latest follower.
    Sharon:)

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  27. thanks for stopping by last week. I'm sorry for your loss. It's tragic and you probably will never be completely over it. It's almost a year that my Mother died so yeah, the first year is pretty hard

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  28. Praying for you and your family as you remember her.

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  29. Prayers to you and the whole family. Loosing someone is never easy and as long as you keep her memory alive she is never forgotten

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  30. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your son will love to see pictures of her and hear stories of her though and I'd talk about her all the time so that she's never forgotton.

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  31. I'm sure this year has gone by so quickly for you.


    Prayers for you and your family.

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