Thursday, October 6, 2011

Hanging in there and My story

I can't tell you how much I appreciate all the Love and support I have received from you, my readers.

This morning I had a D&C suction. They removed the remaining tissue of the baby and cleaned me out so I can heal. The doctor says to take it easy for the weekend and I should be able to resume normal activities on monday.

My body is now finishing out cleaning itself for the next two weeks or so. I should then have a normal cycle 4 weeks after. I am told it is ok to try again at that point. We are pretty sure we will try again at that point.

I have had many questions regarding what happened so I am going to give a brief play as to what happened.

Went for a routine ultrasound to check for any chance of down syndrome yesterday at 12 weeks pregnant. I had many signs I was pregnant and no one suspected anything was wrong. My ob has even said a week prior that he thought I had made it past the critical period.

They did the ultrasound and realized the baby wasn't moving. We didn't, as we could barely see the baby on the screen. The Tech said she had to do a trans-vaginal ultrasound to see the baby better and had me empty my bladder. She said she needed a doc in there when she did those and we just thought it was standard procedure.

We saw the baby very clearly and it wasn't moving but it didn't click yet. The doctor took some measurements and said she had some bad news. The baby had no heartbeat and was measuring at 10 weeks 3 days. Should have been 12 weeks.

They called my ob who called me and said

1. It is a blessing from my body and God because he has sent several of these miscarriages to be tested and always it comes back there was something wrong with the baby. This is nothing I did wrong and just a fluke in how the chromosomes formed. I would have been stuck with a child who was very sick and it wouldn't have been fair to anyone.

2. Due to the fact my body still had not began to get rid of the tissue on its own, it would be best to get the D&C suction, so My body and mind could heal and we could move forward.

3. I have NO higher risk of having a second miscarriage than anyone who hasn't had one. 17% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. They will watch me much closer next time around, however they can't prevent what is meant to happen.

10 comments:

  1. My heart breaks for you and your family. There are few pains greater than the loss of our children. I pray your healing and wholeness as your family grieves this loss.

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  2. I'm sorry for your loss. Lots of thoughts.

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  3. Just wanted to let you know I am praying for you. I have had 4 miscarriages (2 had to have D&C). I feel your pain and will continue to pray for you. I can tell you that emotional healing is a long road, but stick strong with your husband and you will make it through.

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  4. I meant to say something to your other post, but I think this post is better for it anyway. I have had two ectopic (tubal) pregnancies in the last 8 months. The first time, I knew something was wrong with the baby right away and it was a blessing really that we figured it out so quickly because an ectopic pregnancy that is ignored can cause infertility by hysterectomy and even death. The second one though, we went a whole month of the doctor thinking everything was fine. Since my history wasn't good, we had an early internal ultrasound that resulted in not finding the baby. This meant that after a month of getting excited, we had to have it removed because it was growing somewhere that would cause problems later. I now have decreased chances of getting pregnant again or carrying the baby. So while what is happening is HORRIBLE, at least you will be physically fine. Count your blessing in the end and try your best to get through it unscathed. It's a terrible thing to lose a baby, but really I wish I had been in your situation instead of mine. Lean on the ones you love.

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  5. We are so sorry for your loss and love you,Shane and Phil so much. We wish you only the best and all the happiness in the world AND you will be pregnant again before you know it. I know it's not easy, but you are so strong and have so much support and love from your family and friends. Wishing you all the healthy baby dust in the world. Love you girl!

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  6. I am so sorry for your loss and you & your family are in my prayers {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

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  7. Oh sweetie, I am truly sorry for your loss. My heart is sad for you. I send you many, many hugs!! xo

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  8. I am so sorry Laura. I have not been online much at all as have been so busy with my older kids, but I am thinking of you today. No one can say just the right thing during this time, so will just say this: You are a great mom and am sure you will be blessed once again to prove this! Hugs from Wisconsin ((((((<3))))))

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  9. Hi Laura

    Been awhile since I have been to your blog and I just wanted to say that I am sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers.

    Shelly

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